I have a passion for helping couples…

Recreate their relationships. I can help you fulfill the promise you saw in each other when you first fell in love.

My work is primarily based on Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the groundbreaking work of Terry Real. RLT is high impact, action-oriented, and provocative. It is also educational. The focus is on action and doing, rather than talking and seeking insight.

The first and most important goal of RLT is simple: Teach you how to live a wise relational life.

Relational Life Therapy is based on the assumption that your relationship is a practice. It’s like mindfulness meditation. Your relationship is built moment by moment, a little at a time. At HRCS, our goal is to get clear on patterns that create pain and disconnection. Then we replace them with healthy new patterns.

An example of how we work: we slow your conversations down. One of you will speak while the other one listens. You’ll learn that the Speaker and the Listener are different roles with different requirements. You’ll get practice doing both.

In our sessions, you’ll come to see that your relationship is an ecology. You breathe the air your behavior creates. You’ll lean into opportunities to cherish each other. You’ll learn to have empathy, as you behave in compassionate, mutually-beneficially ways. You’ll stop competing and start loving.

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25500 Hawthorne Blvd. Suite 1220,
Torrance, CA 90505

Our first task is to get an accurate picture of what is going on in your relationship. We need to know what works and what doesn’t. I will gather information about the patterned ways in which you interact with your partner. I need to find out your reality and your partner’s reality. How are they different? What are your patterns? Where are you stuck?
Before we go too far, we will talk about what each of you wants from therapy. Do you want the same thing? Do you both want this relationship or does one of you have a foot out the door? This is painful to look at, but necessary for effective couples counseling. Successful marriage counseling begins with clarity about what motivates you.
Next, I will guide you toward developing a compelling vision for your relationship. I will invite you to agree to a non-binding contract of a minimum of 12-16 weeks to go to work. During that time we will create and implement a thoughtful plan for how you will improve your marriage.